So after a busy day, Ron and I went out for "Missionary Splits', which is to say, we went as a couple with one of the full time sister missionaries. After an intense type of day - Missionary Splits is an intense type of night for me (I've talked about this before) - but I did have a good time once I ignored the "flight or fight" voice inside my head.
So - before the splits, I picked Ron up from the bus stop with a bag of burgers and fries which I had kept hot by placing the bag on the defroster on high with the fan going full blast so that they would keep warm. I THOUGHT we'd eat them at the the bus stop. Ron pulled out the fries (which I don't eat) and left the bag with the burgers on the seat.....open......getting cold. "Let's go," he said.
So I closed the bag and put it back on the defroster.
"I detect that you're annoyed with me," he observed.
"Not at all," I replied. "I just like my hamburgers hot."
Then we discussed why I wasn't eating my burger (because I was driving AND because I didn't want to eat my burger until he ate his)
"I wish you wouldn't do that," he said.
Well - it CERTAINLY seemed like a good opportunity to complete my "Dare for Day Five."
So I asked him - "What three things am I doing that irritates you?
"Well, this is a good example", he explained. "You have a control issue. You like things your way and you don't like it when you loose control." (Fair enough) Then he looked at me. I nodded my head.
"You want three things?" I nodded my head.
"Well, everything I can think of comes from that same point," he said. (Fair enough) I nodded my head.
"I'm suppose to ask you now, right"?
"No, not at all. No strings."
"Oh, okay," he replied. Silence.......more silence......continued silence.
"So, what three things am I doing that irritate you?" he asked.
"Can I wait for a while before answering that because I don't want it to seem like I'm just giving you a rebuttal?" I asked.
Ron nodded his head. I nodded my head. We finished our burgers. We went to splits. Not a bad exchange.
Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list below of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.
Act 24:16 And herein do I exercise myself, to have always a conscience void of offence toward God, and toward men.
NOTE: I'm confused - I mean....."..where I need to add margin to my schedule???? TRANSLATOR, please!